Jane Belinda Therapy
Therapy for Women
"It’s not about being perfect. It’s not about where you get yourself in the end. There’s power in allowing yourself to be known and heard, in owning your unique story, in using your authentic voice.” Michelle Obama
a self-compassionate woman is a peaceful woman
The Overwhelmed Woman
Many women learn from an early age to adapt, accommodate and prioritise the needs of those around them. Being caring, capable and self-sacrificing may have helped you feel connected, accepted or safe within your relationships.
Or perhaps you learnt to become the high-achiever, priorisiting achievement, financial success or academic status to win approval or feel like you're good enough.
Over time these adaptations can become so familiar that they feel like part of who you are. It can be difficult and extremely uncomfortable to try and separate who you are from who you learnt to become in order to cope, maintain connection with others or feel 'I'm enough'.
As you may have spent years over-giving to others and under-giving to yourself, my aim in therapy is to go at your pace. It takes time to let go of familiar behaviours, despite knowing they may not be serving you well anymore. Patience is key.
Anxiety
Many of the women I work with appear calm and capable on the outside, yet beneath the surface they are living with constant anxiety, self-doubt and pressure. Together we explore what is at the root of anxious symptoms and focus on building a stabilised nervous system and compassionate relationship with self.
ADHD
Many women receive an ADHD diagnosis later in life after years of blaming themselves. Therapy can help you understand your brain with compassion, work through shame and build a way of living that supports you rather than constantly fighting against yourself.
Trauma
Trauma is not only about what happened to you, it is also about how these experiences shaped the way you see yourself, others and the world. Together we work to process these memories safely, grounding your nervous system out of survival mode to feel present, connected and joyful.
a vulnerable woman is a resilient woman
The Anxious
Woman
Is this you?
Your mind rarely switches off
You overthink conversations long after they have happened
You feel responsible for everyone else's happiness
You find it difficult to relax without feeling guilty
You constantly worry about getting things wrong
You put pressure on yourself to be the one who copes
You struggle to say no, even when you're overwhelmed
You feel emotionally exhausted but keep pushing through
You long to feel calmer but don't know how to slow down
You feel invisible to others yet you're the women keeping everyone and everything together
You may have physical symptoms of back ache, digestive issues, headaches and auto-immune diseases
You sleep poorly, waking up several times, struggling to go back to sleep or struggling to fall asleep
The ADHD
Woman
Is this you?
You've always felt different but couldn't explain why
Your mind feels constantly busy or full of unfinished thoughts
You swing between over-achieving and complete exhaustion
You struggle with emotional overwhelm or rejection sensitivity
You procrastinate even when something is important
You feel guilty because you "know what to do" but can't seem to do it
You mask how difficult life feels from those around you
You have spent years believing you're lazy, disorganised or "too much"
You hyperfocus on a new hobby only to get bored within weeks
You feel sociable, make plans then cancel to feel the relief of not going
You may struggle with binge eating and restriction
You may struggle with addictive behaviours to chase dopamine
You have recently discovered you may have ADHD and suddenly your life makes sense
The Traumatised
Woman
Is this you?
You know your past still affects your present
You find yourself repeating the same relationship patterns
You struggle to trust yourself or other people
You constantly expect something to go wrong
You feel on edge, even when safe
You find it difficult to rest or let your guard down
You carry shame that doesn't seem to belong to the present
Certain situations trigger emotions that feel bigger than the moment
You understand why you react this way but still can't seem to change it
You might swing between irrational anger and numbness
You may suffer from auto immune diseases and physical ill health
You may have lost hope in the goodness of people or the world
You may feel lonely and is if no one understands
You might feel ambivalent towards others, relationships or life
The Practicals
Name: Jane Belinda Therapist, Your Wellbeing
Location: Surbiton, KT5
Online: Googlemeet, Zoom, Teams
Phone consultation: Free informal, free from obligation, 20-minute telephone consultation for therapy clients or therapists for supervision
