Jane Belinda Therapy
ADHD Therapy
"I’m not going to limit myself just because people won’t accept the fact that I can do something else.” Dolly Parton
a self-accepting woman is a courageous woman
ADHD
Receiving an ADHD diagnosis can be life-changing. For many women, it brings relief, understanding and a sense that life finally makes sense. Yet alongside that relief often comes grief for the years spent believing you were lazy, too sensitive, disorganised or simply “not enough”.
Many of the women I work with have spent years masking their difficulties, working twice as hard as everyone else and feeling exhausted by the effort of trying to keep up. They often carry anxiety, perfectionism, people-pleasing and self-doubt alongside ADHD.
Therapy offers a space to understand not only how your brain works, but also how your life experiences have shaped the relationship you have with yourself. Together we’ll work towards greater self-acceptance, emotional wellbeing and a life that works with your brain rather than constantly against it.
Did you know?
ADHD has historically been under-recognised in women because many girls learn to mask their difficulties.
Women are more likely to be diagnosed in adulthood, often after years of struggling with anxiety, perfectionism or burnout.
ADHD in women frequently presents with internalised symptoms such as overwhelm, emotional sensitivity and chronic self-doubt rather than outward hyperactivity.
The highest prevalence of ADHD is in women aged 10-17 and 18-24 years.
Women are more likely to screen positive for ADHD than men, with 14.9% of women compared to 12.4% of men.
Many women seeking an ADHD assessment have previously been treated for anxiety or depression before ADHD was recognised.
Is This You?
- You've always felt different but couldn't explain why
- Your mind feels constantly busy or full of unfinished thoughts
- You swing between over-achieving and complete exhaustion
- You struggle with emotional overwhelm or rejection sensitivity
- You procrastinate even when something is important
- You feel guilty because you "know what to do" but can't seem to do it
- You mask how difficult life is from those around you
- You have spent years believing you're lazy, disorganised or "too much"
- You hyperfocus on a new hobby only to get bored within weeks
- You feel sociable, make plans then cancel to feel the relief of not going
- You may struggle with binge eating and restriction
- You may struggle with addictive behaviours to chase dopamine
- You have recently discovered you may have ADHD and suddenly your life makes sense
Common ADHD Experiences I Support
Late-Diagnosed ADHDt
Understanding yourself after years of wondering why life has always felt harder.
Emotional Dysregulation
Big emotions, overwhelm, frustration and difficulty calming your nervous system.
Rejection Sensitivity
Feeling criticism deeply, worrying about letting people down or fearing rejection.
Masking and Exhausation
The hidden emotional cost of constantly trying to appear organised, calm or capable.
ADHD and Anxiety
Understanding how ADHD and anxiety often interact and reinforce one another.
ADHD, Trauma and Self Esteem
Exploring how growing up feeling misunderstood can affect confidence, relationships and identity.
My aim isn’t to help you become someone else. It’s to help you understand yourself with greater compassion, reduce self-criticism and build a life that honours your strengths, values and needs.
“If you surrender to the wind you can ride it.” Toni Morrison.
How I Work
I don’t believe ADHD should be understood in isolation.
While ADHD affects the way your brain processes information, many women have also spent years adapting to fit expectations that never matched how they naturally function. Over time these adaptations can lead to anxiety, perfectionism, burnout and a deep sense of shame.
My approach combines relational therapy with trauma-informed practice as it can be inherently traumatic existing in a world where you feel 'different'. I also blend compassion focussed theory to build a gentler and accepting relationship with self. Raising awareness of what triggers emotional highs and lows and overwhelm is important also and I work with curiosity alongside tools to ground your nervous system that is running at top speed or shutdown. Together we’ll explore not only how ADHD affects your life today, but also how your experiences have shaped the relationship you have with yourself.
Looking beyond the diagnosis
ADHD is often seen as something diagnosed in childhood, but for many women, ADHD symptoms can become more noticeable or even emerge for the first time during menopause. Hormonal shifts can have a profound effect on brain function, and combined with entering a different phase in your life with menopause, therapy can provide vital support and a space to talk through a confusing transitional time.
A diagnosis can bring clarity, but it doesn’t explain everything. Many of the women I work with have spent years overcompensating, people-pleasing, striving to get everything right or hiding how difficult life really feels. My approach is about understanding the whole person, not just ADHD.
ADHD doesn’t define who you are. Neither do the years you’ve spent masking, adapting or believing you weren’t enough. Therapy is about understanding your brain, making sense of your experiences and building a kinder, more compassionate relationship with yourself.
Testimonial
"I am so pleased I reached out for help at a time when I was unable to cope I can’t thank Jane enough for helping me through one of the most painful emotional times in my life " S.B